Customer Reviews
Don't buy this - By: Kate Smith, 01 Dec 2008 
All relationships & the people involvedin those relationships are different. Instead of following a set of 'rules' as this book sets out it is far better to learn to be yourselfin any given situation. I would recommend Make every man want you by Marie Forleo. Marie throws all rules out of the window & encourages women to be a better & more authentic version of themselves which I think is far more attractive than trying to be something you are not.
She understands the male mind...a guy's view - By: L. Power, 10 Nov 2008 
Firstly,in this book BITCH means Babe In Total Control Of Herself.
She gives you priciples not 'rules' to transform from ignored or taken for granted doormat to relentlessly pursued dreamgirl, who is independent, strong, & not needy.
Initially, I wondered if Sherry is a guy, because she is so onto us. To her credit she did interview many men, to get these deep insights. In fact she has compiled our secret playbook.
I wonder if it is a good thing to have too many of our deep secretsin female hands, because it forces us to change our lazy relationship ways.
There is a self improvement principle - you teach people how to treat you. So do what you have always done, & get what you always got, or teach them how to treat you right.
So when Sherry suggests, acting a little aloof at first, this may seem counterintuitive, but it works. Staying out of relationship mode for a while, bypasses our natural defenses, & it works. Not giving away your personal power by being too much of a pleaser works. Communicating succinctly, I like that one.
Probably the most important lesson from this book is the importance of communication. A woman who calls a guy on his behavior, is showing several powerful things, she demonstrates higher value by not accepting bad behavior, she is not afraid to convey her feelings even if this might offend the guy, she is not timid & unassertive, she keeps the lines of communication honest, & open.
You will win some & lose some by following the advicein this book. Following this advice too rigidly will not work. It is a matter of finding a balance, & using what works for you. Think of this book as training wheels.
This book, is very good, & I probably should not recommend it but I do.
The bit about faking the orgasm, some reviewers don't like. As Sherry is a stand up comedian, this piece is just supposed to be humorous. In reality, you are teaching the guy that is he is already good enough, whereas some improvement might be required.
Some of the anecdotal advice is funny but extreme. The booty call guy left standingin the rain outside his apartment got his just desserts, but the red pantiesin the laundry tactic was too much.
My personal opinion, is we men are not that smart at non verbal communication, so things need to be spelled out more.
We also have a limited capacity for processing verbal information,in fact we go into safety shut down after about 30 seconds of talking. After that point, we just nod & grunt as if we are following along.
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change your love life FOREVER! - By: Ms. A. Lowther, 29 Oct 2008 Any woman who wants to regain control over her relationship or love life should definatley buy this book! I thought I knew everything about controlling men & getting what I want but I had still so much to learn & this book has taught me that! I was concerned I was falling for my man too quickly & roles had reversed. In the beggining I was the 'bitch'in complete control but when he finally got the prize (me) & the chase was over I soon felt i was loosing more & more control over the relationship. Within geting through the first chapter I had my man right where I wanted him again! There is nothing complex or difficult & the advice may seem obvious but the book gives you the confidence to go out & do it & regain ultimate respect for yourself!
What an excellent book! - By: deedee117, 11 Oct 2008 I was put off buying this book fo ages, as I wasn't sure I wanted to learn how to be a 'bitch'!. But Sherry is not using the word 'bitch'in the traditional way- she uses it as term to mean ' a women with self-respect'.
The best book on dating I have read ( & I've read a few...)and I do think the principles can be applied to all areas of life, not just relationships. Why be a down trodden 'nice girl' all the time- it gets you nowhere. The results are immediate- I couldn't believe how subtly changing your behaviour can change other peoples attitude & behaviour towards you. YOU MUST READ IT!!
Now I know where I was going wrong for all those years!!! - By: Sammy, 21 Sep 2008 This book is fantastic!!! I was always too nice & then wondered what i did wrong - now I know & now I'm going to become a "bitch". The advice is practical & makes sense & the book is very easy to follow. The more i read the more i was glued to the book. Finishedin 2 days! Great investment.
