Customer Reviews
This is fantastic - By: Rasmus Fredslund Hansen, 03 Mar 2008 
Ian Coburn really tell some funny storiesin this book. I have recomended it to many of my friends who either need a laugh or a girlfriend (or both).
A thoroughly entertaining read - By: Jonny Trousers, 03 Nov 2007 I really enjoyed God is a Woman. It is an extremely entertaining book & offers excellent advice without coming across as being preachy. It's more of a biography of the successful lessons learnt from failure than it is a self-help book, but it offers just as much advice on picking up women as any other book out there.
Coburn comes across as a thoroughly likeable guy who actually respects women & makes it very clear that there is no single technique for 'pulling' them; more that there are situations you may find yourselfin & certain solutions to choose so as to make things go your way.
He was clearly at an advantage to most of the guys who will read his bookin that he was obviously confident to begin with & had the opportunity to meet girls through his performances, & skills, as a comedian - something that simply has to be attractive to women.
God is a Woman is well worth a read: It is entertaining, funny, full of great advice & has the kind of title & cover that means you can read it on the train without feeling as though you have the word 'Loser' tattooed across your forehead. It does deserve to be published on better quality paper, but that is no big deal really.
Having read it I am determined to go out there & fail with many beautiful women... not because I am a masochist, but because I know that the more times you try, even if you fail, the more times you will ultimately succeed.
Too Much Empty Sex Leads to Nothing but Empty Sex - By: Dave Benoir, 09 Sep 2007 I discovered this bookin of all places half-drunk at a bar - it was advertised on a poster over a urinal at my favorite watering hole. It claimed to be a funny book about a comedian's "hilarious escapades with women." It is. But it is much more than that. Unlike pua manuals it has complete, excellent advice both for meeting & dating women. It also has lots of good advice for women, too & is also a terrific story of growth. (THE GAME is the only other book advising men about women which is also a story; all other books are just manuals for tawdry sex.)
Ian opens the book early on with an observation, & perhaps the most important lessonin the book, & one which pua's & other authors like Neil Strauss & Mystery would have benefited greatly by experiencing, as well, but didn't. After working earlyin his career with a comedian who sleeps with 3 different womenin one day, Ian remarks, "And he was still on the prowl! I learned that sex can become a drug for a lot of these guys...I never wanted sex to be like eating a donut or sipping a beer...Too much empty sex - sex for the sake of simply having sex - leads to nothing but empty sex; highly undesirable." He decided early on not to become victim to his own sexual desires - which has clearly happened to the pua leaders (you have to sleep with 1000 women or something to become one, which I don't even believe any of them really have.) He goes on to state that there is a difference between adoring women & adoring sex & that some men who adore sex are actually very hostile toward women. I would say this description accurately depcits popular womanizers like Neil Strauss, Mystery & Tucker Max, who all seem destined to having empty, meaningless sex for the rest of their lives.
Unlike pua's, Ian does not preach about prescribed lines or dozens of defintions; he is about theory - like how to flirt or develop a sense of humor - & gives clear examples of how he developed these skills & how all guys can. For instance, he breaks down humor simply & tells dorks directly why women don't get their jokes. "The roots of humor are relativity & logic. People have to be able to relate to the topic to find the joke funny, which is why many women don't laugh at Star Trek or Three Stooges jokes. Women don't typically watch these shows, so how can they find references to them funny?" He goes on to describe how to develop timing, delivery & all the elements of humor. He does this with flirting, breaking the ice, making a move, yada yada yada; Ian covers it all.
Unlike pua manuals, the advice is not simply a bunch of lines (Neil Strauss promises on his web site to give you all kinds of new lines & jokes if you pay him lots of money); instead, it is the tools to develop everything you need. Once you understand how to flirt, how to be funny, how to be confident, yada yada yada, you can do it anyway you want. Most importantly, Ian explains how women see things; how everything appears from their perspective. Pua books & web sites don't do that because they don't really know; they rely on their lines & techniques; they don't have clue what is actually going thru the woman's mind & how she sees things or even why their techniques actually work. A simple perusal of reviews by women here & Ian's site, where advice is posted for freein his column Lunch is not a Date & for women on Lifetime, & you'll see that women recognize, often reluctantly, that he knows what they are thinking & more importantly, feeling - "Women act on emotion, often making decisions based on how they feel, not what they think. Oftentimes, their minds later second guess the decision, resultingin them experiencing confused emotions. It must be a dizzying experience; & one which guys need to be sensitive toin order to maintain a relationship or even get a date (sometimes women avoid even meeting a guy because they are tired of experiencing the forthcoming mixed bag of second-guessing emotions - "Should I have given him my number? Will he call? Do I really want to go out with him?")."
A great read with lots of advice. No pitches for expensive pua seminars. If you're a woman, it tells you exactly what a guy thinks but be warned - it isn't pretty all the time, though; Ian becomes a real jerk before he turns over a new leaf & he shares all of that. When something starts as new, something else often comes along as the next best thing. Pua's started the movement of books & advice for guys about women & charging money for seminars. Ian's advice isin the book & supplemented on his web site with a free column; Ian is the next best thing. Hopefully, enough guys will discover him before becoming bitter sex addicts.
Also read THE GAME; the similarity & contrast between the two books is nothing short of fascinating.
The book and column are pure gold! - By: Robert Keller, 08 Sep 2007 I must admit this book & author has me eating crow. So many articles & books out there by purported experts are about a bunch of meaningless jibbersh, like getting a girl's phone numberin 5 minutes of meeting her at a bar. Yeah, but how many of those women call back? Probably close to zero but the authors don't talk about that. It's bs. That's what I used to think. Then this week I read an article by Ian Coburn on ezine (man, I wish I could link to it but Amazon won't let me; just search his name or for this book & it will come up.) The article made alot of sense & told guys how to get a woman to return their call, calling out guys who try to get a numberin 5 minutes as their focus. "Forget getting her digits. When you meet a woman you like, you want to do 3 things - be memorable, suggest a date, & create a reason to call." Find this article, it is gold! Then Ian's article on "The Flaw of Game" which defends the pua society turned me on to them. (I loathed the pua society before Ian's article explained to me that they weren't jerks, just guys trying to get better with women. He goes on to explain that their created terminology is what gets them looked down upon & misunderstood. He is right, the terms don't really mean what they sound like they mean.)
Basically what's happened with this book is that a comedian with alot of knowledge about women wrote a book telling the hilarious stories where he got that knowledge. It somehow became a dating guide (I agree with other college students that it is the new college dating bible) & Ian got an advice column Lunch is Not a Date. Then Lifetime hired him because he has great advice for women, too. I've been reading all of his advice & stories. It is gold, man, pure gold! Much better than anything I've ever seen & far more insightful.
I read The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed & am reading The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists. Check them out, too, but realize, as Ian says, your goal should be to change who you are, not rely on lines & openings forever. Use them to get comfortable then move past them. Pua's don't want you to do that because they want to sell you their courses, which is a rip. Read the books. Find Ian's ezine articles "Get Her to Return Your Call" & "What About Her - The Flaw with Game Exposed". They are gold! Also, the second one has a great opener which is guaranteed to get the converstion going easily by wowing her. He calls it "2 to 9" & of course doesn't use it anymore because he is past game (i.e. needing openers, negging, etc), so it's available to the rest of us! (Ian's past lines & openers, onto what he calls the common-denominator. I'm telling you, read the book!)
Doesn't Insult Women And Is Hilarious - By: Julianne Stewart, 10 Aug 2007 I've been following this author since I read the book because his advice is so good & charismatic. What's amazing is that he appeals to both men & women. Most chick lit only appeals to women & books for men insult women. One day on his blog he mentions a review of the book on the Mystery Method Forum--who raved about how good it is--the next, he announces that he is an expert on the Lifetime Love Panel for Lifetime TV's web site. (He is.) This just demonstrates how his knowledge is for both genders & how hilarious his stories are. The book has gotten him a dating column called Lunch Is Not A Date, which is the only dating column I've ever seen that actually has relevant, helpful advice & is witty & fun.
If you're a woman, this book will give you great insight into what actually goes onin a guy's mind & laugh at how stupid Ian is with women at the start. Then you'll be impressed at how good he becomes as you witness his growth. You'll get lots of great advice that will make you re-think your approach to dating.
For men, I've flipped thru some of the other books out there that supposedly tell you how to meet women. They are insulting & sophmoric. If you think that means this book is wimpy, you are wrong. It is far more graphic than those other books. It is also honest & hilarious & the approaches to women are right on target; things I wouldn't have thought of but that definitely would & do work on me & my friends & any women I know. How can I explain it best? While other "experts" are comfortable with their game & focus on it, Ian is comfortable with women & focuses on them. It enables him to say alot of things those other guys wouldn't dare sayin their books, yet get away with it & not insult women. He understands the timing & approach & that is the key. I haven't seen thatin other books for guys, just alot of pushing of a technique. They don't talk about listening to women & responding; they don't talk about anything except pushing their lame approach. No matter what the woman says, no matter what she does, even if she's not interested (oh, they don't call her a "woman"; they call her a "target". Classy. Ian knows much better than to use such terms. He can describe a woman's body & what goes thru his sometimes dirty but honest mind, & it's non-offensive because it's about a woman, not a "target." That one word alone demonstrates that those other books don't know anything about women.) Even if she isn't interested just keep pushing. I've got news for you, my friends & I had guys bounced out of bars for not leaving us alone on more than one occassion. Some of them claimed to be pick-up artists. I didn't know what that meant until I read this book & Amazon started pushing pick-up artist books on me because I bought this one. The problem with those guys wasn't that we didn't like them, at least at first; it was because they just ignored most of what we said & kept very obviously using techniques they had learned, like "negging", which I've learned is to put down a part of a woman & keep doing so, like her mouth isn't quite right & they find that cute. I'd ask a question & the guy would respond about the mole on my cheek. "Some guys don't like a mark like that & consider it a disfigurement. I think it's sexy." What does that have to do with what I just aked? Pay attention to me! When we asked them to go away because we were tired of them, they kept coming. We had them bounced. They have no concept of timing & how to pay a compliment. Ian would say the same thing but just say "That mole is turning me on." He might even add to it (and probably would) & say something like "That mole is turning me on. Now take off your shirt." It would make me laugh, be part joke, part serious & make me wonder if he was really serious. He would do this at the right time, not when he should be answering my question. Notice that he also doesn't put me down - unncecessary & rude, definitely a turn-off. He's big on pay attention & not having a set routine. "Get comfortable with women" "pay attention" "use what's around you (the common-denominator, as he calls it), not a line" he says & he shows you how to do those things.
Maybe that's the biggest reason women like this book; we want guys to be comfortable with us & pay attention to us; we want nice buys but they don't have a clue; this book will make you a better, more desirable guy, not a creep who's really just after sex. One of those other "experts" wears a hat everywhere just so he can use itin his routine to get a woman. That's lame, obvious, & the hat is ugly. If he put it on my head (that's his gimmick) I'd throw it at him & I guarantee that's happened to him time after time, whether he admits it or not. Ian wrote somewhere "get comfortable with women, not your game." That's the best advice you could get.
