Customer Reviews
you are not alone! All mothers feel the same! - By: Helen C, 06 Sep 2008 
I read this when my baby was 6 months old & WISH i had read it earlier. I thought I was the only person who felt like I was way out of my depth, but no, seems like that is completely normal. This book made me feel that I was sane, normal, & a good mother. If you are feeling even slightly inadequate, read this book!
Gives you the confidence to realise the dishes can wait. - By: R. L. Moss, 21 Jul 2007 Your dh / dp comes home from work. "I've got nothing done all day!" you say. The house is a tip, & your dh / dp is clearly annoyed & thinks you've been sat on your bum watching Jeremy Kylein your dressing gown & slippers.
This wonderful book will give you the words to explain what you've been doing; mothering. All day. Have you spent two hours walking up & down the street bouncing baby on your shoulder singing "baa baa black sheep" until baby falls asleep, only to wake the second you put him/her down so you can do the dishes? You've been doing the vital work of a motherin those two hours & should be proud of what you've achieved. You've been creating a secure environment for your little one & that's more important albeit less tangible than the dishes, or the washing.
Should be available on prescription to all new Mums, & should be required reading for all new Dads!
A book that gives Mothers words for what they do as mothers! - By: K. Kettler, 15 Jun 2007 I bought this book only a few months after my son was born, & I appreciate it more with each passing month.
The author looks sympathetically at mothers, whether they are stay-at-home, work-at-home, or work-outside-the-home. This is a book that gives you words for what being a mother meansin a concrete kind of way.
She helps you fillin the blanks when someone asks you what you've done all day, & you know that you've been insanely busy but can't actually putin words what you've done. You know that you ran two loads of wash, changed 5 diapers, & managed feeding your child, but can that REALLY fill up 9 hours?? Oh yes! What about the nurturing & comfort that you provided? How about the education that you provided as you emptied the washing machine over 10 minutes instead of 2 as you explain to your baby "this is a sock", etc.
The "tasks" of mothering don't have words or an accompanying valuein Western society, but this book helps you name what you do & feel good about it!
All I can say: Buy it as fast as you can & enjoy!!
Got me through the hard times - By: C. James, 31 May 2007 If I could write a mandatory reading list for pregnant couples, this book would top it. Read it. If you are already a mother it will provide you with a boost that is almost spiritual, if you are going to be parents it will provide a valuable insight into the massive changes your lives are about to undergo.
Ladies, if your partner is reluctant to read another baby book, simply get him to read the chapter 'Snapping at my partner'....a peek into why we take out the frustrations of our day on them!
GOOD STUFF! - By: Big reader, 20 Feb 2007 
This book is a real self esteem boost for mothers everywhere. It is wonderfully reassuring & puts into words so many of the thoughts, feelings & emotions that go through mothers heads but that seem impossible to communicate/explain to others-we are not all mad!! I do agree with a previous reviewer that although the author is unbiased, you do sense her views & opinions on various subjects. For example, she clearly believes that leaving your baby to cry for any length of time, even as a last resort when nothing else will settle them to sleep, is cruel.
Obviously,in an ideal world no one would leave a baby crying, but speaking from personal experience (a mother of a very hungry baby who virtually cried all through the night for the first 3 months) sometimes leaving them for a while is the only thing you can do-it becomes a survival issue, it is not cruelty.
On the whole though the meassages are all positive & it is definately a book worth reading if you have had a baby.
