Customer Reviews
If your partner drops you a bombshell buy it now - By: S. Haresign, 24 Oct 2008 
My wife dropped me a bombshell about our relationship after I was quite happily plodding along, within 3 weeks we were separated. If this has happened to you, this book goes a long way to explain why. It is the first real 'self help' book I have read & taken note of, I marked chapters as I read it, saving bits of information that I thought applied to us. Have given it to my wife now, not sure if she is reading it yet, I am hoping it will go some way towards saving my relationship & making it better, because the book does help you to understand why, she needs 'space', & some of the things which may be wrong.
It does appear to show that couples with this kind of trouble are becoming the majority, when usually no one else is involved, although it does cover infidelity. It explains the different stages of a relationship, which you may never have known about, I know I didnt really although it all makes perfect sense, but you need to have fulfilled each stage & move on to the next otherwise there will be trouble, maybe from one person.
Nothing new - By: Cardiff Reader, 08 Aug 2008 
I bought this book because of the very good reviews. I found it heavy, tedious, boring & superficial - it failed to get underneath the real micro issues that are going onin failing or 'tired' relationships. The information it contains is pretty much the same as was being published 20 years ago,in my experience. The seven steps aren't rocket science & there's certainly no magic ingredient here, if you are expecting one. It does offer a structure for how to work on your relationship, if that's what you need & what you think might help you.
A MUST READ!!!! - By: Kevin Hoque, 26 Jul 2008 
I read this book over a weekend & what an eye-opener it is!! I've been together with my handsome man for over 4 years. We've had excellent times & we love each other so much but that feeling of not beingin love anymore was/is weighing us down. How could this be? We work so well together...or so i thought. Turns out we have been driving each other apart without ever really realising it & we had been shielding each other from truths for want of not to hurt the other person. If I had read this book a few years ago I wouldn't have been so stupid!! A relationships require honesty & hardwork on both sides. I realise now that both hard work & honesty have been sorely lackingin our relationship. Hopefully we still have time enough & love enough to use the lessonsin this book to fix what we have, because I love my man dearly & I hope he still loves me. Only time will tell.
So yes, this book is very good, well written, & a must for almost *anyone*in a serious relationship. The two of you deserve to be happy & I believe that the contents of this book will help youin this endeavour.
HIGHLY RECOMMENDED!!
Will it really help you? - By: Reggaeboy, 03 Nov 2007 Unfortunately for me it was too late when the book did arrive as my girlfriend called off the relationship. Much as my now ex thought it was absurd that a book was going to cure everything I found some good constructive advice & our own failings which was that we never argued properly instead tip toeing around each other. The book did reflect a lot that had gone on with us, & i feel both men & women will find something to aid themin their relationship. I particularly enjoyed it as it was written from a british perspective & was more groundedin reality rather than the 'alternative reality' we often see from across the pond. If your relationship is rock bottom try this book for a new angle, it is not a magic bullet just explains that 'smart' thinking may find you a path back to love again. I only wish we were together to tell you if the advice would of workedin practice...
Why didn't I find this earlier - By: IXS, 29 Jan 2007 This is a great book, almost every strategyin it makes perfect sense, whilst it seems to blame most relationship problems on childhood events; it accurately explains the science of what happens at every stage of a relationship.
If your partner & you are still hanging on & working for a chance this book will almost certainly work for you, & even if it failed, you would end up not with a bitter estranged ex, but a life long friend.
My regret is that I never found this book three years ago at a time when I know Mr Marshall's advice would certainly have worked for me.
